by Amy Hunter
What is it about summer that makes it feel like there is more time in each day, and that time actually slows down? Whether we’re working or lounging by the water, we seem to move slower, pause more, disconnect with the hurried pace of our daily life.
Strangely, I am in the throws of a huge project and continue to have the same, if not more, responsibilities as I did during the year. And yet, I am calm, relaxed and very productive. So what it is about the summer? Is it simply the shift in weather or is there more to it? And can we hang on to this perception of time all year long?
Typically we see time through the lens of not enough. As Anne and I have been talking with women this year about what holds them back, feeling overwhelmed, hurried and being short on time consistently shows up as a real challenge. We have grown up with a story that there is never enough time, and that somehow it is in scarce supply. Time is viewed as something that we are held hostage too and is separate from us. In essence, we have become a victim to the 24 hours we are given each day.
Curious to explore this idea more, I picked up The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks to re-read and look at how time holds us back from living our fullest life. According to Hendricks, time actually is in us, comes from us and it is a misconception that it is somewhere out there. We have been sold a story that time and us are distinct, separate entities and we are always destined to be chasing after it. Or in less frequent instances, we find ourselves bored with too much time. Hendricks asserts that time is what we create in each moment, each choice.
We live in a paradigm that we will never have enough time to do all the things we want to do in our lives. However, Hendricks points out that we ultimately hold the power to generate as much time as we need to live our fullest lives. And once we understand and own this, everything about our hurried lives can shift. It’s about finding our focus, selecting what promises and priorities we want to put our fullest attention to. When we are working on what matters most, time usually begins to slip away and our body and emotions settle into a calm yet invigorating energy.
So when I’m by the lake and enjoying the breeze, the sound of the water and working on this blog, I have enough time, in fact time disappears as I enjoy the moment. Here, I am choosing to put my focus in the moment rather than go down the path of all the things I should do and the perceived lack of time to do them all.
I must admit, taking on this new view of time is easy with my lakeside view. To figure out how to do this in my everyday suburban life will be a new challenge. If I can hang onto the feeling in my body and my mood of summer time, refuse to be a victim to the story of not enough time maybe I can make summer “time” become all the ‘time”.
Hendricks, Gay (2009). The Big Leap. HarperCollins ebook.