by Anne day
Like hamsters on their wheel, we can find ourselves spinning, going round and round, not sure how to safely get off and stop.
So we keep going, like the energizer bunny. Saying yes, when deep down we want to say no. Too scared to speak up at work to say we can’t take on more. And always worried that we are not good enough, we’re not managing what we have to do, and yet everyone else seems to be doing just fine.
Well you know what? Truth is they are not. From our research for Good Enough: Embrace who you are. Unleash your brilliance, we found that overwhelm is epidemic. It leaves women feeling inadequate, exhausted and alone in their weariness at the life they’ve created for themselves.
But it doesn’t have to be that way. In our book we’ve come up with different strategies to tackle your sense of overwhelm. And the first is pause.
Take a step out of your day-to-day life and reflect on what you really, really want? Is it anywhere in your life right now? Could it be? What steps could you take to eke out some time for what you love to do?
You don’t have to change your life overnight. In fact, that would be hard to do, but you can make tiny changes so you have more time for yourself. Self-care is important. Often as women we are the glue that holds the family together. We don’t want to become unstuck.
Sometimes when we take a break, when we get off the hamster wheel, we can refresh and renew ourselves. Filling up with the fuel that keeps us moving and growing.
In our conversations with women, we know you are not alone in feeling overwhelmed. But it is not until we remove the mask of shame that we are perhaps not coping as well as it would appear, that we can learn others feel the same way.
Reach out. Share how you are feeling with a friend, your partner or your boss. Talk about it.
The book e-version of Good Enough is now available on amazon.ca and if you purchase before May 8, you will get a free copy of the accompanying workbook. The print version will be available May 9 at www.thegoodenoughproject.ca